Being seen how I want to be seen.
December 7, 2008
How do I know whether I am being perceived how I want to be perceived?
How do I know that I’m not a bad person?
How do I know if I come off as rude, bitchy, pushy or just in-it-for-myself?
It does matter what other people think.
I get validation on whether I’m being seen how I want to be seen.
There are some people that can be characterized right off the bat –
“She’s wonderful! She’s considerate, caring and uplifting to be around.”
“He’s a good guy. He has the best intentions and wouldn’t do anything to hurt anyone. He’s the one person who I know that can hold his word. He’s got integrity.”
“She’s so easy-going, hilarious and knows how to tell a good story.”
I want that I’m easy to classify — like the traits above.
I want that whenever someone says my name, they associate certain qualities with me.
I want that these qualities be the ones that I envision.
When I think about myself, I don’t know even know what to think.
All I get is a big ‘ole:
?
I want to say that I am this, this and that –
but am I foolish to believe myself?
Are these just wishful thoughts?
Or must I rely on the outside to tell me like I am?
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Jamie | December 8, 2008 at 10:48 am
When I think about you, I think strong, intelligent, passionate, and active. Active not only physically, but mentally, spiritually, socially.
I think that, unless your self-awareness is very off, you have a good idea of how other people perceive you. If you are staying true to yourself, then people will only see you as you believe yourself to be. Sure, others can project their own interpretation onto you, but that’s usually because they are threatened. And, inevitably, there will always be people that completely misinterpret you, but I think that the majority of people will see you as you want to be seen… if you truly believe in who you are and truly act in accordance with that belief.
PS – I don’t respond to your blog every time, but I read every post. Keep writing.
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pipsyq | December 8, 2008 at 11:45 am
Thank you Jamie!
Your insight was what I was looking for — a kind of affirmation that says, “We are who we project ourselves to be — and we know this innately.” Unless of course, like you mentioned, our self-awareness is completely off.
We need to catch up — it’s been too long.